It ain't easy

Being a know-it-all is not always easy. In fact, since I know it all, I know that me offering unsolicited advice, and casual comments about why something you did could have been better if....etc., etc. is annoying, condescending, and just plain rude. My friends, and even people that I am not that close with, will be telling me things, and I will start analyzing it. Offering possible interpretations or issues that may not have seen. WHO DO I THINK I AM? I am not a trained psychologist, I havejust been faking it forever. Seriously, I have been casting myself as the voice of reason since I was eight years old.

I also tend to expect everyone to have an evolved sense of understanding, like I do...yeah right! But I do assume that others are self-analytical, and contemplate their histories and their life situations and how it has made them the way they are, and how they deal with the world. But seriously, the Dr. Phil in me gets so out of hand. People can have a petty argument without it meaning that it's all related to something else. I KNOW THAT, but I can't resist. I really hate that.

I seriously think it's because I am inpatient. I don't want them to repeat this scenario again, in some similar way, so I preach and preach, so that they can "learn" and get right. I am such a joke.

Another unacceptable and annoying thing I do is interrupt people and finish their thought...so as to hurry them along. Working with Native Americans daily, this is such bad practice. I just talk fast, and try to get to the point, and want everyone to do that too. So I intercept their long-winded version, cut them off, and tell them the answer straight away. Why I can't just shut the hell up and listen is beyond me!

Primary Excuse for cutting everyone off:
I am a busy person with not a lot of time. But so what? I was raised with manners, I studied communication, I KNOW BETTER. I cut my own father off everytime I speak to him.

Primary Excuse for Offering Unsolicited "criticisms":
I have been a care-taker and problem-solver of so many of my close family, that I jump into that mode without even realizing it. I have been "fixing" my mother, my father, my sister, my cousins for ever. they make errors in their lives, and I offer my perspective, and often it has worked. So that has led us to a twisted dependent relationship. I notice I NEVER seek any of their advice.

I hope there is some hope in that I DO know that I have this problem. My blog name is meant as a person reminder to myself to stay in reality. It's a process and I need to work on it everyday. I sincerely hope that people I love understand that I mean well, and never mean to be hurtful. I know the truth hurts, but I don't always have to dish it!!!